Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Happy Birthday to me

OK, this post is a week late, but you get the idea. Instead of posting a goofy picture of myself, I'm posting a festive photo of Caddy. She quite enjoyed the birthday celebration, as you can tell! That's what happens when you're the blogger — you get to decide when to post goofy photos (too bad Phillip, Carolyn and Julie).
Although I don't know if getting another year older is something to celebrate at this point in my life, it was a great day (actually, a great week) anyway. Good thing I married such a thoughtful man!

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Projects

For the past two weeks, my sewing machine has replaced my computer on my desk. The set-up is a little cramped, but not too bad. When you don't have a kitchen table, you've got to get creative.

A close-up pic to give a tiny preview of some Christmas gifts I'm making. Can't show more than this until the gifts are given.

This week's Sunday column wasn't anything particularly interesting or even amusing, so I deemed it not worth posting here. These photos, though, are worthy since they show how I've spent every free moment for the past week or so. There's some serious project-making happening here, and I don't mean the kind that elicits a groan (Mom forcing us to make crafts). See, I took the "Handmade Pledge" one step farther by deciding to MAKE all my Christmas gifts this year. So far, so good. I think it will help me actually enjoy Christmas this year. What a concept.
Once the gifts are given, I'll post photos and links to the Web sites where I found my inspiration.

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Sunday column: Casey and me

I'm not ashamed to admit that I love a good routine.
Chalk it up to the unpredictable nature of my profession or my desire to establish some sort of order in the chaos that is life, but I'm usually happiest when I can count on some sort of routine.
I'm proud to say that I've recently established a new daily pattern that has had unexpected positive side effects.
About three months ago, I started taking Casey the dog on a walk every day after work. I realize this may not sound like anything worth mentioning, much less dedicating precious newspaper ink to, but I assure you it is.
Let's just say Casey is not a lap dog. She's 35 pounds of wiggling, tail-wagging, so-happy-to-see-you energy. And because she's confined to a relatively small house during the day, she has more than a little pent-up energy. Prior to the establishment of my new routine, when her walks were more sporadic, Casey had to come up with, shall we say, creative ways to release her doggie energy. Usually, this was in the form of methodically chewing her way through an entire drawer full of my husband's socks — which honestly was starting to get expensive, although not without being slightly amusing.
So I took pity on poor Casey and resolved to walk her every day.
It didn't take long for her to catch on to our new routine.
Now, when I arrive home from work in the evening, she greets me with a wagging tail and an expectant look. She follows me from room to room until she sees me pick up the leash, at which point she positions herself at the front door, muscles coiled to bolt out.
I hook her up to the leash and we're off, usually around the neighborhood, but sometimes at one of the city parks.
Although the effect of the daily walks on Casey was immediately noticeable, it took me a few weeks to realize the impact they were having on me.
As Casey sniffs her way through the neighborhood and arrives back at home tired but happy, I began to notice I'd walk through the door with a clearer head and higher spirits.
Taking a 30-minute walk after a long and usually stressful day at the office does more for my mood than I could have imagined.
Now, I've read all the national studies and reports that testify to the psychological as well as physical benefits of exercise, even something as simple as walking.
There have been times in my life when I hit the gym regularly, taking aerobics classes, spinning classes, lifting weights, etc. But never did that exercise impact me the way my dog-walking has.
It's got to have something to do with being outside.
You see, I spend most of my days under fluorescent lights in an office with no windows, staring at a computer screen. When I step outside for lunch, I'm usually temporarily blinded by the sunlight, even on a cloudy day.
Breathing fresh air, using my muscles and soaking in some natural light can work wonders, I've discovered.
Not to mention, seeing Casey revel in her daily walks is highly entertaining and satisfying.
She's clearly on a mission during our walks. She's got to sniff every tree and stare down every cat, squirrel or other creature smaller than herself, all the while trotting several strides ahead of me.
Casey's even acquired some neighborhood admirers thanks to our walks, with one pleasant gentleman even complimenting her on her goatee.
To other dog owners out there, even those with lap dogs, who may walk their furry friends every once in a while like I used to, why not try a new routine? Even if you don't have a dog, there's nothing stopping you from taking a walk.
There's no question our lives are becoming increasingly sedentary. After spending four years walking from class to class across Louisiana Tech's campus, then starting a "real" job after graduation where I spent nine hours a day at a desk in front of a computer screen, I remember the distinct feeling that my body was, how shall I put it … softening.
The key is to find the right type and schedule for exercise that suits you. It may take some trial and error. Heck, I'm paying for a gym membership every month that I'm not using. But that's OK, because now I've discovered that walking is what's right for me at this time.
Even better than the obvious and well-documented health benefits, it's the psychological benefits that have kept me committed to my walking routine. If all it takes to feel refreshed and centered is a little time walking outside, I'd be crazy not to.
Plus, Casey might revert to her old sock-eating antics and, after we recently invested in re-stocking the sock drawer, that just wouldn't be rational.

Monday, November 10, 2008

I wasn't kidding about that pile

A picture is worth a thousand words, but to read my brief description, check out this post.

Sunday, November 9, 2008

Sunday column: Opposites attract

To tell you the truth, I never really believed the whole "opposites attract" cliché until it happened to me.
After all, how could two people at opposite ends of the spectrum truly get along, much less fall in love? It's simply not logical, which makes it hard for me, with my Type A tendencies, to accept.
Yet here I am, married to a man who by all accounts is my opposite. A few examples should prove my point.

Messy vs. neat: The never-ending battle
I wouldn't go so far as to describe myself as a "neat freak," but I do tend to prefer that the areas where I spend time — my house, my cubicle at work — are at least picked up. Husband Nick, on the other hand, doesn't mind a bit if every visible surface is piled high with an impressive layer of clean and dirty clothes, papers, magazines, dog toys, food wrappers, etc.
I've even tested his limits of messiness: I'll restrain myself for days, without telling him what I'm doing, and refuse to pick up anything as the piles grow, waiting to see how long it takes before Nick makes even the slightest move to rearrange something. But no — he always outlasts me.

Type A vs. Type B: The personality clash
As a person who has been called an overachiever for years, you can understand how it may be difficult for me to witness my husband's lackadaisical approach toward life. While I'm "on" from the moment I wake up until the minute my head hits the pillow at night, he just glides through his day with nary a moment of visible stress. During times of anxiety, my reaction is to do something — anything — to try to make the situation better. His solution is to simply wait for it to go away or for someone else (read: me) to fix it. I plan out my days and make a list for just about everything; he can't be bothered with schedules. This arrangement causes me to stress out on his behalf, which probably isn't good for my blood pressure. Somehow, though, he usually manages to take care of his business.

Dogs vs. cats: The fur flies
Although I admit I've been on the path to conversion for the past year or so, I've always been a cat person. Nick, of course, is a dog person. So when he had the bright idea to get a dog last year, I begrudgingly agreed. But, I was completely unprepared for how that addition to our little family would affect my life. Don't get me wrong — I like Casey the dog, but boy is she high-maintenance. There's the feeding and the walking and constantly taking her outside. With cats, just dump some food in the bowl and change the litter once a week. Going out of town for the weekend? No problem, just double the food and the litter allowances and have a great trip. With dogs, things aren't nearly as simple.

Quiet vs. loud: The definition of "yelling"
I've written before about being a naturally loud person. It's something I can't help — I come from a big, Italian family. Most of the time, I don't even realize when I'm being loud or "yelling." To Nick, "yelling" is anything above that "inside voice" teachers used to force us to use back in first grade (I probably don't have to say that I was no good at that). No matter how many times I try to explain that just because I raise my voice, I'm not angry, Nick still hears it that way. Meanwhile, he's a naturally shy, quiet person who doesn't yell when he gets angry. Instead, he goes silent. To me, that's much worse than being yelled at. If he'd just shout at me, I'd know how to handle that.

Surprises vs. no surprises: The Christmas challenge
It may be juvenile, but I love surprises. Ever since I was young I'd hold out for my birthday and not open a single gift early — even if Mom said I could. Despite my preference for planning, happy surprises bring me great joy. Nick, however, hates surprises, no matter how good they are. He simply cannot wait until Christmas Day to open Christmas presents. Last year, he even ruined my surprise. The day he bought my Christmas gift (about a week before the big day) he called me and blabbed what he just got me before I could stop him. He can't seem to help himself, so I've taken to hiding his gifts until the day he's technically supposed to open them. That way, I can still manage to truly surprise him.

Chocolate vs. vanilla: The dessert compromise
Oh, and there's one more thing. I like chocolate ice cream; he likes vanilla. Our solution: Neapolitan, the best of both.

Saturday, November 8, 2008

The verdict is in

I think Casey likes our new place. She looks pretty comfortable, no?

Monday, November 3, 2008

Well, look what happened

It seems as though the people at foryourmarriage.org (i.e., the U.S. Catholic Bishops' Conference) liked what I had to say here.
Want proof? Here's part of an e-mail they sent me (from the Secretariat of Laity, Marriage, Family Life and Youth):

We here at the Bishops' Conference were touched by your column on "What have you done for your marriage today?" Thanks so much for sharing it with us. Of course, this is exactly how we hope the billboards and TV and radio spots will work--that they'll get people to think about the question and maybe prod them to take a little action. I loved your practical examples and
your reflections on the advice you received.
We're re-doing the homepage of our website, and we'd like to feature your column for a few weeks. We'll put the first few lines on the homepage, then invite people to "Read
more."

Woohoo! And, they're even going to run a picture of handsome Nicholas and me. I'll be sure to post a link when it's online at their site.